When buying a car, we think about what purpose it will fill for us. Does it have good mileage? Does it fit 3 carseats and my dog? Do I vacation a lot and need a roomy trunk? Do I want something that looks really sleek? How about the details? Do I want an awesome navigation system or maybe T.V.'s in the back? It all depends on my purpose. How about if I'm buying a home? What matters most? Maybe it's a big back yard, or good school district. Maybe the kitchen is great for hosting, or it has a lot of storage. Is it move in ready, or does it need a lot of DIY projects? Again, this all comes back to my purpose and what I value most. This is where I inevitably will spend my money.

The average wedding ends up being about the same cost as purchasing a new car, or even a downpayment on a house. Most people I know don't go out and buy a car on a whim, or purchase a house without giving it some thought. So why do we start throwing money at vendors without having a purpose and knowing our values for our wedding?

I find that brides-to-be pick a date, reserve a venue and then don't know where to begin. There is often a vision or a dream of the esthetic (rustic chic? princess fairytale?), but that's where it ends. We can see what it looks like, but not necessarily what we want it to be about. Money reflects what we value and what we care about. So does our time. Weddings take money and time, so I want to encourage you to think about what you care about and what you value most when it comes to your wedding.

So let's get started-no matter where you are at in your wedding planning. Get a notebook out or fresh piece of paper. Spend some time with your fiancee brainstorming what matters most to you. Is it a uniquely planned ceremony? Is it an awesome dance party? Maybe its having an incredible dinner, or really amazing music. Whatever it is, write down the things that you care about the most when it comes to your marriage.

For my wedding, my husband and I each cared deeply about two different things. I cared about the ceremony being really intentional and special, and he really wanted a fun reception with lots of dancing. We kept that at the forefront of our minds, and that not only helped with the time we spent planning, but also where we spent our money. Less money was spent on decor and flowers and more on an open bar. I spent more time with my officiants and musicians than I did with bridesmaids dresses and flowers.

Once you and your fiancee have narrowed it down, write down one or two purpose statements for your wedding. Keep these posted somewhere, or in your wedding planner or google doc. Refer back to it when making decisions. This way, when you are faced with a budgeting choice you can pick the option that most aligns with your purpose. When you are trying to figure out where to put your time, you can focus on what matters most to you and delegate the things that are secondary.

Treat your wedding planning with the same care you would with any other big purchase that you make in your life. Weddings are an accumulation of so many small investments, it's easy to get lost. Set your purpose, list what is important, then budget and allot your time accordingly. Planning doesn't just meaning creating a pinterest board and gathering card after card at wedding fairs!

When your wedding is all said and done, you can look back and see that you accomplished your wedding goals, and know that it was money well spent. After our wedding, I heard such great feedback from friends about how beautiful the ceremony was and how much fun they had dancing. That is what we cared about, and that is what we accomplished!

A purposeful wedding equals more joy and less stress for you in the engagement season. What are you waiting for? Make a date with your fiancee today and get started!

Happy Planning!

Heidi :)

There are so many options! How do you know the one hairstyle that is right for you? Let me help you narrow down your pinterest board and check one more thing off of your to-do list.

Theme of your wedding.

Think about your wedding theme, your dress, and the style you are going for. You may love that vintage look, but your ballgown sparkling dress may look better without pincurls. Pick a style that ​​compliments your dress, your accessories and the overall look of your wedding.

Compliment your face.

If you love the sleek look of a low chignon, but you don't like how you look in just a plain ponytail, you are probably not going to like that on yourself. Picking a style that compliments your face shape and how you feel the prettiest is important, because no matter how incredible the updo is, if you don't like it on your face then you will not be happy.

Consider your veil.

If you are wearing a veil or another headpiece or accessory, think of how you want to showcase it (or minimize it.) A family heirloom probably shouldn't be overtaken by the hair, but rather the hairstyle should compliment it. If your heart is set on a flower crown, the hairstyle should accompany it so they are not disconnected. You can always pick your hairstyle first, then the veil or accessory. If your hairpiece is chosen with the dress, deciding on a style that works well with what you already have will help you to complete your look from head to toe.


Getting married in the hot summer months is not conducive to soft flowing curls. This is not to say it can't be done, but you may just enjoy your outdoor wedding and reception in 95 degree heat much more without sticky used-to-be-curls plastered to your back. If you are getting married in the winter and will have to take a coat on and off, having a style a little off of the nape of your neck may be something to consider as well. Minnesota is a tricky place to plan a wedding weather-wise, so ask your stylist her opinion after you do a trial run. They will be able to give you an honest idea of how your hair will hold up.


Lastly, think of times that you have felt the most beautiful. Was it a past wedding you were in and had a great style? Was it a casual event that you did your own hair? I know for me, I wanted to feel out of the ordinary on my wedding day. My go to upstyle includes a sweeping side part, so to stand out as extra special I decided to wear my hair all back away from my face. I felt especially beautiful because of that choice, and it wouldn't have mattered what my hair looked like in the back. So put some make up on, turn up your favorite music, and sit in front of the mirror. Hold your hair in different ways, try different parts, just play a little. You may land on something you love that can help narrow down your pinterest board!

Happy planning!

Heidi :)

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